A recent study conducted by the University of Texas found some unintended consequences while educating students through campaigns on physical and emotional harms of harassment causing an increase rather than a decrease of attacks among students.

According to researchers’ findings, bullying prevention programs in schools generally increase occurrences of physical and emotional attacks among students by teaching kids about the ways and means of bullying. The University of Texas study’s findings challenge commonly held views about the benefits of bullying prevention programs.

“The schools with interventions say, ‘You shouldn’t do this,’ or ‘you shouldn’t do that. But through the programs, the students become highly exposed to what a bully is and they know what to do or say when questioned by parents or teachers,” lead study author Dr. Seokjin Jeong said in a statement released by the university.

From my personal perspective as a psychotherapist, educator, and mother of five children I would have to agree.  The programs may have one significant flaw which is putting the emphasis on the bullying behavior.  We tell them over and over, “Don’t bully other students,” “Don’t act it out in this way…” and then give infinite details on what they shouldn’t do.

Here is my personal experience and a different take on the focus for the future of bullying programs.  As much as possible we want to explain in much greater detail to our children and students what we WANT them to do, NOT what we don’t want them to do.

Last year I worked with a school counselor in a challenging Title 1 Elementary school. The school is in an urban neighborhood that struggled with crime and poverty causing much stress on students and their families.

We had two small focus groups of 6 students averaging the ages of 9-10 years old.  Every student had been in some kind of trouble because of being a bully or acting out. The constant message to these students was “Don’t bully and don’t act out, or you will get in trouble.”  These messages did not change their personal behaviors.

What I said to the students was, “How would you like to have more power and control over yourself?”  How would you like to improve your relationships with your teachers, friends, and families?” Tentatively they said “yes” and so began a 6 week experience of learning about personal empowerment, holding on to their personal remote control, not biting the hook when they were being “baited” by others, and creating healthy boundaries and having greater impulse control.  We shifted the focus.

They knew what wrong was, now they knew how to make it right!  The counselor attending the focus groups reported most of the students had made significant behavioral changes. They still had some behavioral issues. But unlike before, they now had key phrases and the tools helping them.

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